The past can empower the present.
Using Story-Gathering, Story-Navigation, and the P3 Technique we support social service professionals, educational institutions, businesses and individuals in making success easier to achieve by applying a model for success already within you.
We are committed to helping you become the Story Specialist of your own personal and professional life. We help you identify a model of success from your behavior patterns and memories in order to improve your insight and decision-making.
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I grew up in a house of domestic violence and because of this being present is one of my biggest struggles. I don’t like surprises. Surprises when I was little were a big puddle of blood on the floor of the vestibule before stepping into the living room of my home. Surprises were a sudden shattering of glass as a fist rammed through the screen door. Surprises were death threats from one family member to another and at night being taught by an older cousin how to touch and be touched in private areas.
Forget surprises. I’d rather run through a series of what ifs and every possibility under the rainbow of why my self-employed life will fail, why my marriage to the most amazing man I have ever met will fail, why my new friendship with my twin sister as we hit 30 years old will crash into some wall if we keep spending all this time with each other. I’d rather have these possible outcomes ready in mind than wait until they happen. I worry to avoid surprises because the anything that could happen has happened in my life. I know this phrase is not a vain threat. So I assume all of the anythings that could happen to protect myself. This is what takes me out of being present, in the moment, as I busy myself with picking out a tone of voice, a cough, limited eye contact, elements in the present moment I use to predict the disaster that could happen because of them.
I share this story about myself because it is why I do my work around moments. Trauma survivors can come to a place of being able to thrive rather than simply survive because they have at some point been able to recount, play by play, the event that stayed within their emotional body and shocked them as it happened. They can at some point say what happened, allowing the picture of the event to play through their memory like a movie they are narrating but it’s a narration unlike any other in that as it narrates, as it says aloud the feared moment, it in some degree diffuses the power of that event in the narrator’s emotional, physical and psychological life. Sometimes standing in what happened releases it. Or standing in what happened is the beginning of the release from its control over us. Saying what happened is a form of release. This release then frees us up to be more available to the moment happening right now.
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